Hi Tig....I can relate but almost backwards....a situation would happen and my ex would get mad because he said he told me about it, or that it was going to happen etc. (this happened with two ex's, actually...talk about feeling paranoid!) I'd say, no, you didn't tell me and they would insist they did. I would insist right back and we'd end up in an argument with me doubting my sanity. Finally, I was able to prove to both, that what they thought they had told me, they only THOUGHT OF TELLING ME....they hadn't really followed through. Eventually, both agreed, but it was crazy making, I'll tell you.

I agree....if you can take a walk and clear your head, do so, it's very helpful. I walked a LOT when that was happening. Fact is, it wasn't that important, but making me doubt my sanity (and my memory) WAS important...as usual, I lost sight of what was really happening....the BPD went into full swing.

Take deep breaths, long strides and try not to let her get to you.