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Originally Posted by Trebyn
So it sounds like everyone kind of develops their own reasons for enjoying having relationships, but that the urge to have those relationships is a bit unexplainable, and is *just there*. Would that be right?
Suppose for a moment that one of your parents was crying, or a sibling was. Would seeing them like that affect you? And if so, why, and what would you do?
Or suppose that a friend has been struggling with something lately and has been looking to you for support. Would you give them the time to provide it? Or would you seek out the company of someone less needy?
Sorry for all these questions... I'm trying to understand how other people process one another.
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Well if one of my parents was crying I'm not sure what I would do since I have issues around emotional insect, and being put in an adult care taking role as a kid. But if my sister is upset, I try to do everything that I can to comfort her (i.e. tell her jokes, help her work thought the problem, get angry on her behalf). And if it was a friend I think I'd pretty much do the same thing. But if the friend kept violating my boundaries, by say calling too often, or only ever allowing the conversation to be about their issues, I would try to talk to them and find a way to work it out. If the person kept disregarding my needs then I would think about ending the relationship, or distancing myself from the person.