It does seem passive aggressive, on his part. Sure, he's been wounded. Yet, like you say, second hand accounts. It's strange, depending on which ex inlaw of mine, you speak with, you may get conflicting accounts. You may hear, I didn't care OR you may hear I am a wonderful mom and had been a do everything for him wife. Even, to this day.
Now, it is possible, he'd been worn down from such marriage, with heightened sensitivities, that left unaddressed in therapy, could lead to this. Or, he's claimed victomhood, and lays blame without accountability.
No, of course, you didn't do wrong to not explain why your mom took your son, she's his gram!! It goes without saying.
Couples counseling, is another option.
He does need to address a side of himself, no matter. He's pushing you away, however. And your mind is out of sorts trying to pin point your role, which may not be in doing wrong, but entertaining/enabling his insecurities.
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They claim ex didn't care about him and only herself . No clue as I hear second hand . I feel he's tested me by not texting yesterday .. Yes it's hard .. Back in high school I liked him a lot I felt maybe fate we reconnected . I guess not . So is this the passive aggressive trait he did ?
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. Was it wrong I didn't tell text him yesterday that mom offered to take my son cuz she has my nephew.. We didn't even tell one on one ., I was planning on telling him my plans when we talked when I tried to call today . And when I texted him this am after calling he responded right back saying he's cleaning and when I asked him to call back he didn't and yet I tried Again but here I'm the one fading ? My head is messing up .
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