What I'm saying is that you might want to have a little more time to assess what she's doing and get through the withdrawal. I know just what you mean about being more lonely than if you were totally cut off: that's just how it's been for me.

Now, in terms of the emotional distancing you mention though, have you discussed that you miss those warm comments from her? Can you ask her for them?

My therapist has used certain phrases and comments with me that I love, and then stopped at times. Sometimes I've prodded her to use them again, and she obliges.

There is SO much change in your relationship right now, it's absolutely bound and guaranteed to be jarring. I do believe this sensation of being dropped can actually get better, and the therapy can still be helpful if she's still committed to you and I sense that she is.

I think you might be getting ahead of yourself, anticipating, panicing and worrying that she won't love you anymore. I don't see that happening right now at all. Moreso... I think I see you reacting to the fear of it, which is totally understandable to me because of all the changes and recent confusion.

I just wonder if this is more about mourning and missing a "honeymoon" period. I think what follows eventually, after the destabilizing period of mourning which can give rise to the fears, can be a more level and seemingly less intense relationship, but also a much deeper and more secure one.

IDK, but it just seems as though the problem isn't in the relationship (the observable behaviors and interactions), but in your fears and thoughts about the relationship.

I'm sorry. I can understand how hard of a decision this is to make. It definitely is tough for T to change the way the game is played in a way that seems backwards and awkward. Sometimes it is necessary for them to do so depending on individual circumstances, to protect you or themselves...or both. It could be a situation that could be incredibly powerful and healing to push through but I know that is much easier said than done. It is important to really reflect on the situation, to make sure you are 100% certain of the intentions behind your decision before following through with it. If you feel it will be more damaging to stay with her, definitely move on and use everything she taught you...you can even look for a new T if you need one still. If you feel this is something you could adjust to and manage being uncomfortable for a while, during this transition, it may be best to stick it out with her.
I had a similar dynamic with my Therapist and we are still very connected and have a close, unique bond; but she had to change the boundaries because my needs have changed. I couldn't see it at first, but after some reflecting and asking her loads of questions, I completely understand her angle and agree it is necessary at this stage of my healing. It is an uphill battle for a while, I'm still working on accepting it. I still feel she is in my corner, one of my biggest allies, and a powerful advocate for my well-being...I still feel safe. And slowly I am beginning to feel peaceful.

I hope you are able to follow your heart and go with what you feel is the best possible decision.