Without my knowing the other people involved, the answer to your questions is not known by me. But - it would seem to me that people make their various connections according to how these meet their own needs - so there might be some other aspects to their activities that affect their decisions about what and with whom they do things. And, if they have different levels of involvement in various activities, then it becomes easy for them to cancel at the last minute (even tho you invested your time). Maybe they perceive a different level or direction of interest in various activities, in comparison to your interest. Maybe they developed new interests in various games, etc. - and wanted to head toward the newness. Maybe they were not aiming for a regular game thing. This reminds me of a time when my partner and I were living in another city, so he would come up with an idea of something fun to do - we would go out and do that, but if I suggested the same thing next time - he would decline (and seemed to lack interest anymore in that activity) - so this is how I came to try to understand about how us humans like new things to do. As for not inviting you, people can be positive, but they want different experiences from their interactions. Another example, I can remember wanting to meet people for friendship, so I made the effort to phone someone - but when I phoned her it's the wrong time of day so she's busy with her kids; yet on another occasion she suggested we go out to a couple of movies - but I only want to stay for one movie and then leave -yet she then starts clinging at me to stay for the second movie (meeting my reluctance). Maybe it's about fit and compatibility? How to find people who want to do the same thing that each other wants? Or more recently, there was a friendly guy inviting me for dinner from time to time, so I would go (but did not enjoy our interactions much), and he keeps coming up with ideas of things he wants to do - but I find I keep experiencing reluctance and coming up with reasons to not go (along with that same feeling of being "last resort" - or "babysitting" him when his girlfriend is not available). So - do things get complicated? If you want more people around, plan some of your own parties or activities and invite who you like. Of course, you are worth.