I have read most of your thread, sorry you have experienced all this with this troubled young man. I don't know if he is a true psychopath, or just a very lost young man that has a lot of maturing to do. His relationship with is mother is strange, and that is something no woman can fix IMHO. Often there are red flag warning signs present in a prospective partner, unfortunately what women do is think they can fix whatever is wrong. Well, this can go on for years and a woman can keep believing things are great and will get better, he will grow up and change at some point, but that doesn't take place and the relationship can fall apart to where the woman is feeling all the things you are describing.

It is not unusual for a male to take a lot longer to mature than a woman. Also, they look at sex very differently too, they can have sex without love, no problem, whereas a woman typically is bonding and connecting when she is "making love". Also men are emotionally hardwired differently then women are so you will never really get a nurturer with a man. Men and women can have similar emotions however women are much more emotionally complex then men are, it's just the way we are designed because women have to be more emotionally complex because she bears a child and has to be capable of picking up on different needs. You might pick up on a male partner's needs, but that will not be the same in his ability to pick up on your needs. Men will notoriously get frustrated with emotional women and they "can" respond with anger or a desire to escape or move on. Men tend to be more attracted to a submissive woman too. However, there are men that look for a woman "just like mom", they don't even realize it either, it is what they know and their subconscious tells them is what they better fit with. A man can grow up with a narcissistic mother and be a bit miserable and end up with the same type as a wife always making up for how he could never please the mother.

Believe it or not, many people duplicate similar relationship problems that their parents had too. They say "never" but, often certain behavior patterns are so deep in their subconscious from seeing how their parents interact that they repeat the same behaviors like an automatic deeply learned skill, doing without thinking.

Take some time and review patterns in your relationship and also review patterns in your parent's relationship, see anything similar? Think about how at times you gave this guy a hard time, lost your cool and was difficult. Have you seen that happen with your parents? Often we pick up these behavior patterns not realizing it. We see these kind of interactions happen all the time we are growing up, even when we don't realize it playing over and over again in the background as we grow up. What we don't even realize our brain is learning is "action = response" and often we also pickup on the emotional responses too "action = emotional response" even "action = tantrum".

Something to think about.

OE