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Old Apr 27, 2014, 03:52 PM
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Originally Posted by Grey Matter View Post
Some may know I had a partner. Upon being inpatient and seeing how the relationship was triggering for not only myself, but for my ex, I made what I believe to be a logical and mature decision on ending the relationship. She agreed, and we ended that part of our relationship calmly and maturely.

Those who haven't been mature; Her friends.

It's turned into a ridiculous "contest" of sorts as to who can complicate a simply non-complicated break up. I have been called cold hearted because I haven't cried, because I didn't "fight". That I "tricked" her into loving me just to have her attention... even though this break up was a healthy, mutual agreement.

Not only did I NOT want to hurt her, after a suicide attempt I am well aware I need to keep myself safe. This is why it was mutually decided that it was a good idea. We do not hate each other. Yet, at the end of the day, I have been called some very horrid things. The most G rated being

"Robot"
"Heartless"
"Bastard"
"Selfish"
etc, etc

Why is it seen in society as a robotic move to approach external relationships with a logical mind? Would it have been kinder, more romantic, if I dragged the both of us down? Would I be a better person if I convinced her that staying with me may cause her depression/anxiety to flare, but it will be worth it because it's "true love"?

I feel certain in her and my own decision. But I simply don't understand why it is charming and acceptable to keep an unhealthy relationship going, but getting out of it with all parties safe, is shameful.
what you have done is not evil at all, it is admirable.more people should take notes from you on how to peacefully end a relationship..i am still friends with my last 3 ex's and none of the break ups were a bloodbath nor should they have been, i can still see any one of them any time i want.
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