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Originally Posted by Rose3
If you want more people around, plan some of your own parties or activities and invite who you like. Of course, you are worth.
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Again, this is what I have been doing. I don't want to leave things to fate and hope that people will invite me to take part in what their plans. Instead I create the opportunity and invite them out. I extend my hand in friendship and they spit on it. If I shake it off and try again, I am accused of harassment. Perhaps I am approaching the wrong people, but I can't believe that, because it has been EVERYBODY I have met.
Here's a list of the people I have met over the last few years since I move home:
Deane (ex-girlfriends best friend)
- Didn't like me much. Actively sabotaged my relationship by setting my girlfriend up with other men.
Gav (My best friend from when I lived in my old house)
- Used to spend most days together. Since moving I'm lucky if we talk on the phone once every 6 months. Every attempt I have made to meet up has been rejected. Usually he agrees to meet up, but then switches his phone off on the day.
Bekie and Rob (My Sister and Bro-in-law)
- They used to invite me to come around to their house for tea, but the second some activity come up I was excluded. They treat me like a lesser person most of the time and have no respect for me at all.
Sara and Bob (Friends of my sister).
- Known Sara for 6+ years. Get on quite well when we meet. They've never once invited me out. They plan their weekend with people in front of me while not including me.
Adam (another friend of my sisters)
- Refuses to even speak to me when in the same room. Has never so much as tried to start a conversation with me. Any attempt to start conversation on my behalf is met with sneers and one word responses.
Cris (yet another friend of my sisters)
- Known the guy for 10+ years. Use to be regular patrons of the same pub back when I had a social life. Talks to me and is friendly enough, but doesn't know my name after all these years.
Kerry and John (guess what, friends of my sisters)
- Of all my sisters friends, these two are the ones I got on with the best. Really enjoyed their company. They were the ones who excluded me from the role-playing game. I carried a bit of a torch for Kerry. After she broke up with John she asked me out, but she was only trying to make her self feel better. After using me emotionally, she ditched me. I was upset and it caused a rift between us. My sister and bro-in-law took her side and I became estranged from my family.
Various People from Rock Climbing
- every one of them was single serving friend for the day and never seen again.
Various girls from OKCupid
- never met a girl once from online. Talked to three for months. Got stood up by two of them when they agreed to meet up.
Various people from Ceramics Class
- Some are nice, but they are generally much older than me.
People from CADS
- Already mentioned above. I built a huge wooden statue for them in the courtyard of the club, but when it came to making the promotional video, they edited me out and focused on the more photogenic guy in as he built the support frame.
People from Art Group
- Already mentioned above.
People from SWG Society
- Know most of them through my Dad. Almost all of them are older than me and have known me since I was a little kid. None of them consider me a friend or treat me like my own person, just as my fathers son.