I think mine is, "how can I make my life better?" I had gone many years without paying much attention to the deficits in my life, but just putting up with them, and being unhappy. Now I view myself more as an architect with control over how my life is. What is hard is when I realize something needs changing but then must deliberately not change it due to competing interests or needs. That's hard! To sit still, be patient, and do nothing when one wants to change.