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Originally Posted by HazelGirl
- Mother: dismissive, not surprising since she was emotionally neglectful and very misattuned to my needs
- Father: fearful, also not surprising because he was physically and emotionally abusive, as well as neglectful
- Both best friend and romantic relationship: preoccupied, not surprising because I am often afraid I will be abandoned or harmed by them
Basically, I can form every type of attachment other than secure. No wonder I am miserable.
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Oh your pattern seems similar to mine. That was helpful just to read. When I got done with test I was so confused cause I had a mark in all the boxes. I also have neglectful/abandoning parents, and global preoccupied style (maybe some relationship ?). But I guess with a lot of hard worked I've formed a secure attachment with SO. So yay for that.