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Old Apr 28, 2014, 03:48 AM
flower333 flower333 is offline
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I went through the same until I moved cities. I realised that sometimes things don't work out because we are in the wrong place. At least that was the case for me. The Universe was trying to send me a message that I needed to start my life fresh and move to a different location. As I changed locations, things started to change for me and people were the ones calling me to go out and everyone wanted to be my friend. Work opportunities came. The last city I lived in was a nightmare. Abusive situations, abusive uncaring people, just one bad thing after the next. People would ignore me and treat me like crap. It was not only due to age difference, personality differences, being of a different nationality and ethnicity but it was also due to different life experiences.

The law of attraction suggests that you should ask for what you want. Start making positive affirmations "I am worthy of having friends who care and love me" "I am worthy to be find a job where I will be happy and valued and make new friends". Sometimes we have bad things happening to us because deep down we don't really believe anything good can happen to us. That was my case and also the fact that I was in the wrong place. I started telling myself those things. I had a very low self esteem and only attracted people who would hurt and disappoint me. I started loving myself and standing up for myself. I stopped attracting men who were only there to abuse me. Having been abused by my father, I subconsiously only attracted abusive men. I had to cleanse my karma and my aura.

Sometimes things don't work out because it is the Universe's way of saying "it's time to move somewhere else". That was the case for me and I don't know if that's the case for you. When nothing works out...it's sometimes time to move to a new place.

It could also be that you're in a time where you are getting to know yourself. Sometimes the universe will withhold friendships from us because we need to learn to spend time with ourselves and love our own company and reflect on the deeper meaning in life. You need to reach inner happiness and peace. When that cycle ends, your new cycle with friends will start.

Trust me, good things are coming your way. Believe it.

You are the master of every situation. You create your own future and you create your own happiness.

You are a great guy and you deserve to be treated with dignity and respect.

All those rejections you have experienced have made you stronger, better and have taught you the importance of including others. You will be a very compassionate person and maybe you'll even help a lot of people overcome the kind of things you had to overcome.

I used to think that something about me maybe was pushing people away. Maybe my emotional reactions or maybe I was too self centered? I certainly have stopped talking to a lot of people because they were so self-absorbed and only talked about themselves and never asked me anything about my life and didn't take an interest in me. It was only about them, them, them. Also they lacked empathy and concern when I would share certain things with them. I'm always extra careful not to do that with other people. Sometimes there are times when it's OK to listen to someone and let them do all the talking bc they need to be listened to but if that's all there is in a friendship it's not healthy. So I looked inside myself and discovered that I was actually a very good listened and I'm fun person to be around and I make people feel good about themselves. I did lack some things though like I'm not good at talking about intellectual things. I'm more a heart person. And a lot of people were not wanting to be my friends because of that. I seemed stupid to them. They talked condescendingly to me. That is one area I'm trying to improve. Also I used to overshare about my emotions and life and I lost a lot of potential friends bc of this. And then with other people I didn't open up enough when they needed it and I also lost a lot of potential friends. Find areas where you need to improve so you don't push people away. Not saying that you push people away I'm sure you're a very good person but I mean we all do things we're not aware of.

Hope I haven't offended you saying all this.

Good luck !!!
Thanks for this!
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