Lovestruck,

After reading your post, I realized that the description of your husband matches me almost exactly:

1. We never ever had a passionate love making.

- To tell you the truth, I really don't know what it means. I'm always focused on the physical/technical aspects of sex...where my hands are, am I going to fast, am I putting too much weight on her, I hope I don't cum to fast...
- I really have never "let myself go", but I don't know how...on the other hand, I don't remember my wife ever just letting go and "going passionate on me" either

2. We do have sex occasionally, may be once or twice in a month. (Which I feel he does out of duty)

- it used to me once or twice a month, now after 18 years, its once or twice a year.
- it is not out of duty, I personally want more but I don't know how to get her to the point of wanting sex

3. The whole thing, foreplay and intercourse(if any) last only 30 mins or less.

- I'd love for it to last that long...most of the time it is 15-20 minutes on a good day

4. Thr's no cuddling after sex. He just falls asleep.

- well, it's not me that runs off...but it isn't always comfortable laying around with fluids dripping from body parts

5. He had never ejaculated in me. The only once he did, was last week, bcoz we have started planning a baby. (Though I do not think it was successful )

- I don't like ejaculating in my wife because it's messy for her. We've had our children and I'm fixed, so no babies...so there is really no good reason to leave my wife with a mess. Is it wrong that I care enough about her hygiene and comfort to not ejaculate in her?

We do not use condom, bcoz initially when we tried to use condoms, before i could put it on, the erection ceased.

- I've always had the same problem. If I take my mind of sex, even to put on a condom...I lose the erection. If my wife did something to keep me aroused while she put it on...better.

6. He never had a girlfriend (Or may be he hasn't told me). Earlier, i used to think this is because he had a bad dressing sense and Didn't looked good before marriage.

- I personally has one boyfriend and three girlfriends before marriage. The boyfriend lasted a year, the girls a few months total. It's not something I chosen, I just understood boys better.

All these things make me think, " Is my husband really a gay??"

- Well, in my case, yes I am gay...as least partially. I'm bisexual and I do love my wife beyond belief. I realize that I never really understood women, I understand men better. Makes me a poor heterosexual lover, but a good homosexual lover.

I think that you need to talk to you husband, and find out his history, his likes and dislikes. Help him understand...and don't judge.