And if members ostracize you for relapsing or not going to meetings or continuing to drink they are not following the tenants of the philosophy. It does happen though.

The philosophy says to help the addict who is still suffering. To show tolerance and non judgement. Who knows better than us why an addict would continue to use. The whole idea is to help those who relapse get back on the right track not to ostracize them. People with experience in the program understand this and will visit you in your home **** faced drunk if you will let them in. They will go to jails and bars or skid row to try to help someone who wants out. That is the philosophy and it is unfortunate some don't follow it.