Thankyou Nowheretorun,
I am appreciative of your genuine concerns for my well being. I am possibly having a slow dawning that I'm not in a picture that is looking any better from one day to the next. We met midweek and again over the weekend. It was my intention to defer sex till we had some resolution. I am not as Doug suggests interested in hiss and spit foreplay. He however wants only to go forward without missing a beat and needed to have what we call "therapy" to put him in a good place!! I analyse too much!!?? Pretty much I've been pegged as the problem. I should let him this or that or give him space or whatever it takes for me to tolerate the status quo.

Not happy Jan! I figure if I have all this improved self worth I protest about then I had better use it. Your words struck home re better single than putting up with crap. They say God helps those that help themselves. I should get off the carousel pony if I prefer trail riding. Like Cat Stevens all dressed up to go ....

Thankyou Nowhere for reminding me it can be lonelier in company than being alone.

To thine ownself be true.

With fond regard Frances.