I think the problem is that most people, especially the people in your particular 12 step sites it sounds like, aren't as brave as you are mouse. It is my experience that people with only one way of doing things are more scared of themselves and life and of things feeling "out of control." I think there is a lot of all or none, black and white thinking with the one way right/everything else wrong. Life isn't that simple for me; there's too much "gray"?

With your therapy I think you've grown past the belief that there's an "easy", just follow these particular rules (12-steps), and Life will all be wonderful and you'll always be/stay safe and sound, etc. You are developing better coping tools than that in therapy is what I think, mouse.