The biggest part of the problem is that before i live where I do now I spent almost all of my adult life in a rather small, self-contained, community. Everyone knew everyone. Even the people who didn't like each other were forced to interact because they were neighbors. sometimes you would be popular, other times not so much, but no matter what you had a place and belonged! But been here in the city, it's really different. I can't walk to the shops and bump into someone I know - I'm lucky if I pass someone who speaks the same language. Instead its about having a circle of peers that contact one another and arrange meetings. I mentioned my sisters friends a lot because when I first moved here my sister was my only social contact, and as such, her friends became my peers. Not one of them was welcoming or friendly however. But it is not that these people are not friendly, they just weren't friendly towards me.

Example: I was around my sisters house and a few of her friends were around. The house next door had recently been sold and the owner (landlord not occupant) was there to check over the place. My sister and hubby invite the guy in. They make small talk and invite the guy to a dinner party. They make the effort to make friends with a complete stranger with as tentative a connection as that, but they exclude the brother of their best friend who they have known for a long time. Is it any wonder that I feel victimized here?

No matter. As I said, after Kerry played me for a fool, my sister and I parted ways because she valued her friendship with Kerry over that of her brother, even though what she had done was wrong.

Last night I was talking to Rosa by text. She kept on messaging me. Saying variations of the same thing: that I am a great person and worthy of friendship. When I'd responded she would flip and accuse me of harassment. I asked her why she was messaging me when she was making it clear that she didn't want to know me. She told me that she was enjoying teasing me. Cruel.