It sounds like he is just inexperienced in love as you are. You need to talk to him, tell him what you like or would like so he can try to please you. Ask him to talk to you too, about himself and what he wants for your marriage. Men can have good friends like your husband with this man just like women can have really good girlfriends. It is hard to just be close to just people of the opposite sex as they cannot know what is like to be our own sex?