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Originally Posted by Djinn8
So if they call are they being needy? Not that that would matter to me, but you're making fostering friendships sound like a Mexican standoff. I know people play stupid social games with each other, but they are just that: stupid!
Contact other people? If there are other people to contact, this wouldn't be a problem in the first place. On the rare occasion that I have a few people I can contact at the same time. I'm just faced with the same predicament with each person. I can spread my contact out between them, but then things are left to go cold.
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i'm not saying they are being needy just that they are being SELFISH! 99% of people in this world are very selfish "what's in it for me" particularly in big cities.
sometimes fostering friendships can appear that way, me and my best friend have BPD so it's great when we don't see each other or return each other's calls because we can really tear into each other( and we do!) but i don't go crazy if he doesn't call me back..i just give him crap when he does LOL! he does the same to me, if i'm with a female friend and he calls i'm not going to take my attention off her to talk to him..he knows this and does the same with me.
i don't get mad, i'll probably call him later on today or tomorrow eventually he'll call me back if he doesn't respond, if he doesn't i'm not going to lose it.
if you really want to have some fun you could do this with rosa too, even though it seems she is a jerk wad, there are ways to deal w/people like her! LOL!
at the end of the day, you have to MAKE other people to contact..every time you step outside your door is an opportunity to meet someone, i know so many people there are people i run into occasionally they remember me, my name and everything idk who the F*** they are, don't remember 'em, LOL!
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