why do you need to text this guy your plans and whereabouts all day long? how is that showing affection or care? it sounds like control to me--not affection. doesn't this guy trust you?

also, absolutely don't put your 5 year old in a room with 2 teenagers you've never met before. why not just stay in a hotel? it would solve all your problems.

wanted to add that i think it is a huge red flag the comment he made about putting his needs before his kids. how would you feel, if you all lived as a family, when he starts putting his needs before your 5 year old's?