Your T's behavior sounds wrong to me, GenCat. What the two of you discuss behind closed (professional) doors is supposed to remain there. It was completely inappropriate of your T to share your personal history with the church director.

The list of activities that you two are planning and/or already done are also inappropriate. There's nothing wrong with her encouraging you to go to a concert, maybe even joking that you two might bump into each other in line ....but that is it. The line needs to be drawn there. Offering to drive you along? Inappropriate. Really.

While these things I've said may not be comfortable to see, you need to pay attention to them. Think about it. How many average Joe's/Jane's hang out with their T? Not many at all. There's a big and important reason for that. We need to have a solid, safe relationship with our T's, to make our world a healthier and emotionally safer place to live in.

Intimate or close friendships change the dimensions a bit. Suddenly, there's more give/take between patient and T. It just doesn't help you to have to sieve between the words she says and try to decipher the meaning. best wishes to you!