Dear God, do get a new T. Also I know that going to therapy is hard, but you really do have to go to appointments. I think it is just much better if you can build a relationship in person. Honestly I think your T should have set boundaries with you about coming to appointments. And if you just weren't showing up she should have tried to understand why so that you can talk about it.

I understand about having a hard time finding Ts. I've had insurance the whole time, and I've still really struggled to find someone good. PTSD can create trust issues, so that can make it hard to know if the issues is with you or the therapist. Usually when I start seeing a new T I try to stay a little more than I'm comfortable with. But if you still don't have a good vibe after 4-5 apts I think it might be time to move on. That's my time table anyway.

Also I've found that things like experience and degree don't always make a big difference. it really ia all about finding someone you feel safe with, and who you can connect to.

Best of luck.