I am so glad to hear someone say they are in a similar situation. Things have calmed down somewhat and we are managing to have mature conversations about the issues in our relationship. But, I am constantly haunted by this feeling that he's not right for me and there's someone out there who's more compatible. I can't shake it. We have our first meeting with the marriage counselor tonight and I am not very positive about it. I feel like it's not really going to help. I'm also very torn between him and my family and friends who are convinced that I've settled and that he is not good enough for me. I have been trying to work on me and I've noticed that I am very insecure and that it caused problems. It's like I have a hard time believing that someone could love me. And I feel like we only talk about what's for dinner, and money, that we're not really friends. He's always asking me what I want to do every night. But, he has insecurities too and those insecurities caused him to behave in ways my family and friends didn't like. But more importantly, I didn't like it. I am so conflicted and have been our whole relationship and now it's worse than ever and I don't know how to get to the bottom of it. Every time I decide to leave, I can't go through with it. Then, when things are good, I feel more conflicted about him.