arachnophobia you hit the nail on the head, i am a mother of a 23 year old son who isn't doing very well right now, he is seeing a psyciatrist and therapist for a drinking problem too, he may have hyperthroidism and is on Seroquil now. I wish the opposite than you i wish he would open up to me more often, and he has a few times told me very personal things which made me feel good to know he could talk to me. Maybe your mom does have a lot of things you can learn about her that you don't know about, some things are better left unsaid but it shouldn't interfere with a relationship. Maybe tell her you love her once in a while, unless thats too personal or painful for you or her.