Hi Heavy hauler. My father worked in industry most of his career and my mother was a stay at home wife with a few blips of employment in the middle of their marriage. When my father retired, there was such a difficulty adapting to him being home all the time. She was used to him being gone all hours and having control of the home and he was used to being physically and mentally challenged all the time. It took a lot of adjustment for both of them. Mom was used to pattern of chores and when Dad tried to help it seemed he was always under foot. Dad ended up playing solitaire on the computer all day. it was a difficult change at first.

I am sorry to hear of your injury. That is another major stressor. It sounds like a bit of counselling might help you both try to re-establish the marriage again. Issues have to be discussed but with help. My parents had a temporary separation in the middle of their marriage and returned to make it much stronger. I am in a life's crossroads myself with empty nest after raising my two sons as a single mom and they are leaving home now. This stage of life also took a drastic couple of turns but I am finally seeing some positives now. This is a bumpy road and you will feel overwhelmed at times. By all means, seek help when you do and know that you are not alone. The support is there for you whether she takes it or not.