I don't mean for for binary transgender, no worries! I know defining ones self with their outward expression is sometimes as important as internal expression. My issue resides in ftm and mtf people sometimes underminding the expression of NB folk and the like.

I have an NB friend who is not male or female, and xyr flow between the two sometimes, but not always. When xem and myself went to a group for trans/NB people, we were yelled at because xe was wearing a dress, therefore, xyr didn't "understand" the struggles of trans people. Which isn't true, as we still face a disproportionate amount of violence, job loss, and mental illness.

My biggest bone to pick here, and not with you, but with some groups, is that NB are limited to one look. And we need to subscribe to that look to be taken seriously, or we are told we are doing it for "attention".

A big thing to remember is that gender and binary based objects (makeup, clothes, the like) can be what ever you want them to be. You can be a ftm and STILL wear dresses! And that makes it masculine! You can be mtf and hate wearing dresses but love suits! That makes it feminine! And it's wonderful!

I just get so frustrated when people correct my appearance, and I feel like I've had to be masculine my whole life to remain gender neutral... which defeats it completely and leaves me feeling like I have no choices.