Or what about soldiers who come back from Iraq and experienced huge trauma. They may have been totally healthy when they left but they come back and have depression and turn to drugs and alcohol. Have major PTSD.

It probably is not going to do them much good to view themselves as victims but in reality they are victims of trauma. You have to say it had a huge effect on them. Should they blame themselves? Or a young girl who is brutally raped. She is a victim and not at fault. Maybe in recovering from that it is not good to view herself as a victim but I don't know how she should view herself. It has to be very difficult.