Thanks so much both of you. I was afraid this issue was too long and convoluted.

My sister's complaints of me have definitely pushed a button. I've worked very hard to not make my mental illness my identity. And part of that is both being and building up a reputation as a stable person. I feel like she has been going behind my back and ruining any chance I have of being seen as "normal" again. Not only that but I thought she was the person I could trust most.

I am going to distance myself for a significant period of time. Over time maybe I will better be able to see things from her side. At this point I do not see how I can trust her.

While I wish this problem didn't lead me here. I'm glad I found this place. Thanks for the advice.