But I DON'T have a problem making a connection with people. I have a problem with being the tenth person on the list when they decide who they are going to spend time with. To become closer friends with someone you have to share experiences, make memories, etc till you are at a point where you can trust them. You can only do that if people make the effort and take the chance, which no one seems willing to do because they already have people that they can do that with.

When Rosa was sending me those text the other day I told her that I was sorry if I was bothering her I was just getting frustrated that no one ever accepts my invitations. I don't have the text she sent back but it went something like: "You're spinning me garbage. I know what you are like. You've got lots of friends. You were one of the most popular people at class".

I don't project the image of a loser to people and I don't act like a miserable sod around them. I understand that no one wants to talk to a guy who's like that. Not that I'm a totally closed book. If I'm stressed out or having a crap day, I'll say so, but I won't go on about it. Maybe "I" feel like a loser, but other people don't see me that way and usually think I'm a fun guy to be around.

It's true that there's a lots of advice here, but none of it helps much. Again, I'll ask what to do in this situation. A person gives you their number and tells you to call them. You invite them out, but they turn you down, promising "next week perhaps".

Do you call them next week, or do you hope that they call you? It's all well and good saying, "just call someone else", but there might not be anyone else, and if there is, it's just the same situation again.

So the only real advice has been to accept the loneliness and stop trying. But that's easier said than done because life is so impoverished without good friends. It's turning summer time and people are going to be taking camping trips, going on holiday, sitting in beer gardens late into the evening, going to BBQs and all the other fun stuff that people do. I on the other hand am going to be stuck in the house with my face pressed up against the window. Am I just supposed to accept that! Or do I make that call and try just one more time?