Hi honey. I'm so sorry that you're feeling that way. I went through something similar w/ my father when I was a young teenager and I have to tell you that even after he stopped being "inappropriate" towards me; the uncomfortableness(hurt, pain, even hatred) has lasted to this day. Its gotten some better now that we're back in each other's lives and it's been discussed but I think I'll always be uncomfortable around him. The circumstances w/ my mother were also the same as yours; w/ her burying her head in the sand. Don't feel bad for being uncomfortable and I DON'T think you should relax and trust him even if it's been a few yrs. I agree w/ what everybody else posted to you about being careful or even trying to get out of the home. Regardless of how he acts now; YOU are still in pain. I urge you to talk to a therapist because the repercussions of even that one time could last you a lifetime. You hang in there girl.