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Originally Posted by clinpsycstudent
Was reflecting back on my previous experiences with my therapist - and so many things were red flags. She commented on how much make up (apparently) I used to wear, and that could have been overcompensation for me "hiding" my sexuality of being gay (just because I am feminine?  ) Though she used to constantly tell me how beautiful I was - after that, I did end up telling her I did not have a lack of self-esteem and it was confusing for me to hear her say that due to my feelings towards her. But at the same time, she held me at arms length and said I couldn't become dependent on her.
I still feel discouraged with her termination towards me - and not being able to contact her again because it is 'innappropriate'.
Ugggh... sorry for the rant - just feeling quite sad  Hopefully a new T will help me a lot better! |
Wow your previous T has seriously never hear of lipstick lesbians, and she seriously has no idea about how fun and cool makeup can be. I think I actually tend to wear more make up and put more effort into my appearance when I'm feeling better about myself. I can't believe your T would make such a shallow and stereotypical assumption.
Also I would never be ok with a T telling that kind of stuff about my looks, I would also find it confusing. How seriously irresponsible.
And I know what you mean about T's telling you that you can't be dependent on them, my last T did that when I was honest with her about my feelings for her. I wrote these poems as away of telling her, and brought them to session hoping that we could talk about the things I was struggling with in the poems. She basically refused to talk about them, and yelled at me the whole session, telling me how I couldn't depend on her. And she apparently told my next therapist that my feelings were "inappropriate" (apparently having no idea about what erotic transference is). I'm seriously starting to wonder it this some kind of messed up script they teach therapists. If the client falls in love be sure to tell them that they can't depend on you, and categorize their feelings inappropriate.
I'm so mad that this happened to you. It just sounds so messed up. You know I wrote my last T an email telling her exactly how I felt. I asked her in the email to take responsibility for the things that she had done. She never responded of course. But it felt good to do that. Is it possible to write to her without expecting a response?