That is complete BS. I am "gay" (though I absolutely hate labels) and I have always been super feminine. I love makeup, clothing, heels, and pretty hair and no amount of realization or feeling the need to put on a facade just to make a heterosexual woman feel more at ease would change that. Sounds like she has some serious troubles understanding the spectrum of the lgbt community.

I'm really sorry you had this experience. I hope you find someone else you connect with who won't backhandedly cast judgement or make assumptions! This really grinds my gears.