[QUOTE=AllyIsHopeful;3723434]That is complete BS. I am "gay" (though I absolutely hate labels) and I have always been super feminine. I love makeup, clothing, heels, and pretty hair and no amount of realization or feeling the need to put on a facade just to make a heterosexual woman feel more at ease would change that. Sounds like she has some serious troubles understanding the spectrum of the lgbt community.

I'm really sorry you had this experience. I hope you find someone else you connect with who won't backhandedly cast judgement or make assumptions! This really grinds my gears.[/QUOTE

It is hurtful for me - even today I think back and have no idea how I accepted her words for such a long time. I am not a fan of labels either, and I prefer to just be comfortable being me. I sit and wonder what on earth her motive was to say what she did? Was she uncomfortable around me? Was it such a shock to her to meet a feminine lesbian? I do wish I could send her an e-mail - she definitely won't reply as I am so "inapproprate") after her saying she is always there for me when I terminated.... go figure!