Can you see yourself with this guy in 30 years? How do you think you'll feel then? Is it possible to live your life on your own terms and still love him? Is it possible for you to live your life on your own terms and still have him love you? Can you live your life on his terms and still love yourself? Can you reach a satisfying compromise where you can do some of the things you want to do while also being satisfied to share in his lifestyle? Is it possible for you to both be individuals and do the sorts of things you each want to do AND be a couple at the same time?

Is it possible for you to both find that balance?

Balance is the key.

This is coming from a guy who's been taking part in an extremely happy marriage for upwards of 40 years now.

Compromise is not a dirty word. When it comes from your heart, it isn't a compromise. It's just what couples do when they love each other.

Balance...