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Originally Posted by pegasus
Well, I was going to say for you to make sure you are not leaving to run away from your problems. When something big is coming up, the need to run is very strong! I can tell from your writing this is the case! You need to leave therapy when you feel you are done, when you have dealt with what you need to and feel you can cope without T. See? You are not ready yet.
There is a big transference thing going on here and it is all perfectly normal! It is your next hurdle to deal with together!   |
Thanks
What I struggle with all of this is that in the real world, you fall in love with someone... you can't have them... you move on. You distance yourself because you know you can't have them, and you don't torture yourself by talking intimately with them for 50 minutes a week.
It seems like many of us on the board have super strong feelings for our T's (which are REAL relationships, just in a weird form - be it transference or not). They are filling some deep need within us. Or in many cases, not filling us QUITE enough so that we're all left with the pains of wanting more than can be given to us.
Are we all just dangling carrots in front of ourselves, seeing the father we could have had, or the mother, or the friend.. etc. etc?
Has anyone here really been able to work through transference issues, and not been wrecked and devastated when therapy ends?
Sorry, I'm just confused and tired of all this!