Everyone's opinion would be greatly appreciated.

This subject will soon come up in my life and I haven't a clue how to handle it.

How much would you contribute to your son's wedding?

Given you have already given your son college money, helped out with many vechicles, given money to get out of scraps and you now find yourself on disability.
That your son only stops by to get stuff he has stored at your house, that his girlfriend really doesn't like you and has made your ex-husband her "best friend".

Is there a "norm" in this situation? There are 4 parents - all divorced - 2 are on disability, the other 2 are not making more than 30,000.

My son -22 and his girlfriend -23 make together in the 23,000 range. His girlfriend has this dream wedding in mind - she won't accept help in the lines of helping to make things for the wedding.

So what would be appropriate?

Thank you,
freewill