It does seem that he is rather insecure and needy but many of us are so that wouldn't be the deciding factor, for me, anyway. What seems more important is his ideas that you and he, as a couple, come before the children. That's all good and fine if you had kids together, but you don't. I'm just hoping that you aren't his rebound relationship from the divorce? No one in your situation needs another divorce, especially the kids.

I really think you will need some couples counselling before a long term commitment is made. Maybe you can work through these things with the help of a disinterested party. All I'm really thinking is this dog too old to learn new tricks????

I married a man 9 years older than me and all I heard for 33 years is "you do love me don't you?" Drives me absolutely crazy, but I didn't leave for the sake of my children. Looking back I feel I sacrificed being and doing what I really wanted. Lesson learned albeit, a bit too late for me.

The most important thing for you to look at is will he be a good step-father to my child or will he soon become too jealous and demanding? Only you know the answer. Don't settle! Big hug!