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Originally Posted by stressedoutofmind
So, he called me wanting to talk things over. We argued slightly through the whole thing. Everytime i tried bringing up how i cannot do the 16 and 24 hours because i basically have things that i want to do, he starts saying that i dont consider him the top priority. He says i put my brothers before him, and that why should we have to compromise around their schedule when they should compromise with ours. He conveniently didnt remember the statement he said that he blamed my brothers for not finding another place to rent fast enough before he violated his parole and got stuck in halfway house another year.
He readily admitted he is pitting me against my brothers because he should come first, and that i should jump at the chance to spend all my time with him.
Honest opinions. Is a husband supposed to pitt the wife against her family just because he thinks he isnt the high priority? I am trying to compromise with both sides and he is a high priority. But a friend says my priority should be me first.
Any thoughts?
Ami thinking right or am i wrong about what marriage is?
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i think it needs to be a balance, it doesn't have to be him vs them.
it's a difficult situation because his free time is dictated by the state
he cannot see you whenever he wants, while your brothers can
i can see his point there, but.....the top priority crap, i disagree with that because, he put himself in that situation, going to prison has consequences.
if it's painful, too bad because he did this to himself, stop "f" ing up & you wont have to worry about being a "top priority" whatever that means
idk how your brothers not finding another place to rent has anything to do with him breaking the law
he made the choice to do whatever it was that violated him, no one can force him to do anything as far as i'm concerned.
he is your husband so i do believe he is a high priority, but not your only priority, now i'm not understanding the 16 and 24 hours but i would say this, if my wife was in prison and i got 24hrs to spend with her, me personally i would put everything else on hold, but that's just me.
everybody in this world is always talking about putting "me" first, i think that is bad advice and it's selfish, the best thing to do is to make the fairest decision based on all the circumstances which will make EVERYONE as happy as possible, this world is messed up the way it is now because everybody is always about "Me"
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