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Originally Posted by KAnn4485
So, my fiancé has a problem. He has this need to talk to and sext other people. I knew he did it before we got together when he was married to his ex-wife but he was never happy with her. She was cold hearted and didn't care about anyone but herself. A few months ago I caught him texting another girl. He had been doing it for 2 weeks behind my back. He deleted the messages before I could read them but swore it was innocent. The other night, I logged into his email account and saw where he posted on Craigslist asking if there were any ladies that wanted to talk and send pictures on kik messenger. I told him when we got together that I did not want him on kik messenger anymore. I have caught him with the app on his phone twice before this. I honestly don't think he would ever act on anything, but the fact that he has the need to talk to and send pics back and forth with other girls really bothers me. It makes me feel like I can't make him happy. He is my soul mate. I realized when we fell in love that I had never really been in love with anyone ever before. I have given up EVERYTHING for him. I really don't want to just give up on him. I just don't know what else to do. I just feel worthless now. Like I can't make him happy. I just don't understand why he has to talk to other people. What should I do? We are supposed to get married next month. He says he wants to get help. That he doesn't want to lose me. He has talked to him mom about all of this and is going to start going to Pathways for counseling. He also let me put restrictions on his phone to where he can't get on the internet or delete apps that he has downloaded without a passcode that only I know. 
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this is a problem that needs to be fixed BEFORE you get married, seeing how you have never been in love before, i think it is a really bad idea to get married just yet..how long have you known this man? do you guys live together? you can never get to know a person really until you live with them.
IMHO you need to live with a person a MINIMUM of 3 to 3/2 years..give time for the real "them" to show up and see what you are signing up for, too many marriages fail because people sign up for what they thought they were getting only to later realize it was a bait and switch
you want to give your marriage a fighting chance, relationships alone are hard enough, i imagine marriage is much harder...you don't want to set yourself up for failure, hope this helps and good luck!
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