Hello Lostone and welcome to Psych Central.
I sincerely feel that you need to look at this relationship as it is at this time. Were there problems in the relationship I assume there were problems otherwise the two of you would be still together. I would highly suggest waiting to get reinvolved with this person until you have time to see things clearly for yourself what is happening in the relationship and gt the help of a professional therapist to help you regain composure in the relationship. I hope the best for you in the future. Take care Soidhonia