Doing any sort of therapy work in a small community changes everything. The roles get crossed quite a bit, but I agree with Leah123. It seems as if she is acting more as a life coach rather than a T.

I know that some T's do exposure therapy so I wondered if this was partly that, but after reading more, it seems as if she has completely crossed your boundaries. In fact, seems to me like she's enmeshed in them.

This does not foster independence by any means. It just appeared as if her responses were more like justifications and rationalizations, rather than evidence based marks of your therapeutic journey.