Hi Heavy, Welcome to PsychCentral. Like the previous poster said, you did not give a lot of explanation about what you did to try to make things right or
what was said to your wife and why she believes what was told to her.
If you realize that you are not a great husband or father it may take a while to prove that you can be. For example you can not expect years of bad behavior to be forgotten over night. (Just an example)
We all make mistakes and it must be difficult after being hurt to go through all these problems but if you want to be with your wife it is worth the effort.
Good Luch