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Originally Posted by cherrykix
The strange thing is, he's in love with me too. It's a situation I've always dreamed about, never knew it could be reality.
After finally (9 years) realized that my best friend loved me, I've started to recognize the love I've felt for him too. I undoubtedly love him, I can't help
myself, but here's where it gets weird.
I know it sounds weird, but I'm going to marry this guy sometime. It's an absolute truth, I AM GOING TO MARRY HIM. I've known it since I first met him, when I was twelve, and I still know it now.
But I'm not ready for a long-term relationship. I just want to explore. I know it sounds horrible, but I want to know men other than him.
I love him so much, so much that I cry about it sometimes, but I'm not ready for a long-term relationship. I just want to experience adult-hood like a regular person does, even if I know he's my SOUL MATE. I didn't generally believe in such things, until I realized it was him...
Help?
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Not being ready for long term commitment yet at the same time you know you want to marry him? Seems like a contradiction to me. How can you even know you want to marry him if you don't even want to make the commitment to him right now? I think that you envision some fantasy future with this guy but it's true, you're not ready.
It further makes no sense to state that you're so in love with someone but have teh need/desire to "know other men" that's just asking for complication and strife. "I love you but I want to have other [insert opposite sex] in my life first." what's the purpose in that? Is there something you hope to achieve by knowing other men first? If one is in love with a person the need to find out about others is gone and there is no need. That is the one you choose and you do it without hesitation.
When you're ready to make the choice for real, then you're ready to say that you know this is the guy. Until then, if he's still there, then at that point you can say this. You cannot be double minded. Either you want him and you'll be with him now or you want to date and you have to let go of the idea of being with him for now. Could still happen but you hve to make a choice.