I do kind of see T as a peer but that is because I work in the mental health field. I have a bachelors degree but have chosen to be a secretary on a psych unit as the schedule works well for me and my family. She has a secretary that she depends on heavily so she knows how crazy and important my job is. We often discuss our work and such.

She is single and has been for MANY years. I have been married for almost 20 years she frequently mentions how amazed she is because her marriage only lasted a couple of years