Before he can recover from his sex and pornograpy addiction, he has to admitt that's what he is and seek help for himself. I recommend Sex Addicts Anonymous. Look at their website and see if there are any meetings close to you. Your husband has to accept responsibility for his actions. Chances of him changing this behavior without lots of psychological help is not very promising. He also needs to see a therapist that specializes in sexual addiction.

I hate to sound negative but being a former sex addict I know how hard it is to give up these activities. I still have to watch decisions I make to make sure I don't make excuses to return to the behavior. I, also, have severe depression which makes it even harder because you are so desparte to feel better any way you can. And it's not unsual to find another addiction to transfer to. Best wishes.

My husband stayed with me but things will never be the same. We should have called it quits then, now neither one of us cares enough to move on. We're just stuck.