My daughter got married 3 years ago. The grooms parents offered to pay for the flowers at first, but never brought it up again so we paid. They did pay for the rehearsal dinner & the carriage ride to the hotel for the first night & their first night at the hotel of their honeymoon. Basically, we paid for everything else--the food, the photogropher, their calligraphy, the invitations, gifts for the out-ot-town guests, a brunch after the wedding, the fee for the judge (non-church wedding), the venue, the band, numerous things--the cake, you get the picture. It ran $30,000.00 dollars!