Hi Razeljenny --

I am finding it a little challenging to follow your thoughts.

As I understand, you are staying at your bf's home while he isn't home. But how did you get in if he didn't invite you over?

Whether it's bad manners depends on your relationship. If you are only to use the key when he has invited you to wait for him, it seems like it could be a violation of privacy expectations. On the other hand, if you both come and go freely, maybe not. Or maybe it will take the relationship into a freer territory.

As for the food dilemma, as I understand you believe that men use food as a weapon against women. I'm not sure whether you mean this current bf or guys in general.

I'm lost, as you can see.

But good luck with it all.