PS... with respect to the 'relationship' thing... it isn't so much about my wanting a relationship as it is about my wanting a f buddy... (not trying to bypass asterisking but just so thats clearer)... used to have this 'arrangement' back home with a guy who was a really good friend. that worked out fairly well for a long time... haven't got that there though... just a once off drunken encounter with a guy down the hall (OOPS that was NOT a good move). though... it is alright now... and he is going out with a good friend of mine and so we won't be repeating that... but i miss that, i do...