What is so hard for me in a similar situation is that it makes me question my entire belief system. Specifically, the question about whether you can live with someone for 8 years and not love them. That's a hard thought. Makes you re-evaluate the whole eight years ... which is painful.

It seems clear that he DID love you ... and that some part of him still does. But that he's not IN love with you ... and that is something more ephemeral. There is a certain magic to that, as well as chemistry.

Were you completely happy in the relationship? Or did you sense that there were things that were missing for you, too? Sometimes being the person who got dumped makes us forget the things we were missing, too.