Thats the right article.

He wasnt being glib. To him it made sense. I informed him it was the worst thing to say ever. I dont know if he ever saw it my way. When i did finally tell him i wanted him to like me, he just asked, what would that mean? And the expression that came to mind was, then everything would be alright. But that was my mother talking. She saw me as not being able to take care of myself. But i got thru college in 3 years and started working almost immediately and was always able to find a job.

So that was an inaccurate view of me, so that is what i have been mostly been dealing with in t, the familys inaccurate view of my feelings and inaccurate feedback and reinforcement. So the transference in being hot for my t was not really about wanting him, but about wanting to satisfy my mother's directive to get someone to take care of me and make everything alright. It was embarrassing to talk about with him, but it was kind of a bottleneck we had to get past. I see you stuck behind a similar bottleneck, altho i dont know what is causing yours.