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Originally Posted by JadeAmethyst
We talked about the difference between love, hate and indifference on a previous post, and there are some good responses.
Today, i would like to ask any of you that care to reply:
Why is it that some people feel that in order to feel good, must have someone to feel bad about?
I ask my step mother this yesterday, this has been most of our relationship for a very long time. She really doesn't have any idea about how she treats others, and thus i am becoming more aware of how i affect others....
Not looking to change anything, just trying to open some doors with her....if possible. (we'll see)
Making efforts today, to move into a different perspective, and a lighter attitude with moving forward in my own life. Sharing some points to ponder with my friends here.
thanks
Jade
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I agree to some degree with Uber -- I have had a hard time feeling good because I am in constant vigilance for something to go wrong. For example, I have a 45 minute commute to work. Rather than listen to music, which relaxes me and makes me feel good, I listen to talk radio, or worse, those news channels. I'm not necessarily looking for something to complain about, but I get kind of worried that if I relax too much, enjoy the moment and let go, I will get sideswiped by some occurance or catastrophe (Crazy right?). I don't know if that makes sense to you but if that's kind of how you feel, what I have been trying just lately is to listen to the music, and if impending doom fears come into my mind, I say "There are going to be good days and bad days, its unavoidable, so let me enjoy the good times while I can".
I saw a little saying in my therapist's office that goes something like: "If I get worried about having a bad day, I can be sure that up until today, I've gotten through 100% of them"
Hope this helps.....good luck!!